The past weekend I had the funniest, wisest and warmest Labradoodle to communicate with that I have ever had the privilege to connect with.
He was just a bright sparkle all over, and there were quite a lot of things he said which I think we can all benefit and learn from. With the permission of his person, who booked the consult with me – and of course the permission from Bolton himself – I am sharing two of those here.
One of all the questions I always ask the animal (I have about 20 or so questions I ask every animal in the consultations, next to all the questions from the animal´s people) is what he thinks of people/humans in general and how he relates to them. On this Bolton replied something we can all take to heart ;
“ Sometimes I really get a “human allergy”. People just don’t have any awareness at all about their own energy, what energy and signals they are sending out and this leads to a total lack of control of the consequences.”
I asked him to elaborate a bit and he explained to me that we humans need to take the responsibility of all our actions and thoughts as well as the consequences of these. He showed me that quite often we stand around and “chit chat” or do “cold talk” and we let all sorts of things about ourselves, other people, other peoples kids, dogs, cats, birds and horses slip out we don´t realize that every word or thought sent out with a bad intent or a not so friendly comment creates a whirlwind of negativity that comes back to bite us all. Animals, and quite often young children, all feel this straight away and when they cannot walk away from this negative energy it sticks to them. Bolton also showed me that it sticks to all of us, and that we have to stop questioning why “things don´t work out” and look at what energy we are putting out into the world. All the time.
Once we get that we can experiment immediately with putting positive energy out there – comments, hugs, compliments, and see what happens then.
I was also told that when you catch yourself with “one negative” , don´t beat yourself up but go for “two positives”. So when you find yourself thinking, wanting or having said something negative about a situation or somebody just pause and look for two positives in the same situation. “Bolton´s diffuse”.
Bolton also had a tip for all of us dog people for when a situation arises with another dog or more dogs whom you see your own dog reacting fearful too. That is the moment when you as the “leader” has to step in with all your energy and presence. Saying “don´t be afraid” out loud he told us, won´t work at this point. You have to put yourself physically in the way between the other dog/s and yours and show with your energy that you are not letting anyone close to your animal. This is done without words, so it requests your complete presence and awareness of your own intent and energy. Then everyone can feel that there is nothing to be afraid of, there is no trespassing of boundaries here.
His comment to this was also “that is why kids don´t do what you say, instead they do what you do. So, do! And be aware of what you do! And Do when you do!”
Bolton is showing us one situation here, but his comment and solution is something we can take in to all areas of our lives.
Thank you Bolton for talking to us all!